This Facebook Post Written By Maggie Doyne After Losing Her Child, Will Leave You In Tears

Maggie Doyne, founder of BlinkNow, recently won one of the most prestigious awards – CNN Hero of The Year 2015, and made all of us proud. Everything was great, she was happy and had even more ambitions and desires to help even more children; until December 30th when one of her children named Ravi passed away. 1 year old Ravi, who was the apple of her eye, was sleeping next to her when he left the world.


Maggie had met Ravi when he was 2 month old and weighed around 2 KG. His mother had passed away giving birth to him and he was on the verge of life and death but with the medical team’s quick action and the love and care of Maggie along with her staff and other children; Ravi became healthy and happy. But the news of his sudden death shocked everyone. On Saturday, Maggie took to BlinkNow’s Facebook page to express her feelings. This post of hers will definitely leave you in tears. She wrote:

Ravi and I were made for each other. I’ve never met a more perfect little being. I would have chosen him out of a billion. And he chose me. He was like one of my limbs, our souls are intertwined. I would have rather lost my legs or my arms or my face. At least then people would know the pain I feel, because they could see it. The joy Ravi brought to my heart was like none I’ve ever experienced. He made everything okay. His smile and his laughter lit up the whole world and lit up my being. He loved me so much too. The way he looked at me and kissed me and giggled when he saw me. I’ve never seen anyone look at me that way. He must have said mama about 1000 times a day and every time my heart would beat and I would think, that’s me! I’m his mama. I’m the luckiest woman on earth. I never took one moment with him for granted. Because I almost lost him so early on, I spent every moment grateful, holding him, snuggling him, kissing him. The hours he must have spent laying on my chest, his favorite place to fall asleep. The hours we spent staring into each other’s eyes. And I knew I couldn’t keep that love all to myself so I shared him. I shared him with the world. With all my friends. I trusted everyone with him. That little body. I want him back. I want him. My baby. My baby. My Ravi. My light. I want his scratchy voice that was just learning to talk in two languages. I want his wobbly little legs that were just getting sturdy. I want his sweet skin and his little ears and his perfect nose and his teeth that kept popping through his gums one by one. I want his round little squishy belly. I want his hands. I want to wake up to him staring at me on the pillow. I want and yearn for something I will never have again.

I can’t make sense of this. This is the worst kind of pain I have ever felt. I lost my son. I lost my baby. It’s soul crushing and numbing. I feel like my heart and guts are splattered on a hot black piece of pavement. I’m trying to work with the darkness and the bad thoughts. I’ve screamed so much my throat is raw. I’ve tried to wake up from this nightmare. I’ve laid in his crib. I’ve cried so many tears my eyes won’t open. Nothing takes it away. Nothing changes it. Nothing will bring him back.

I’ve never wanted anything, not one possession. Why take the one thing from me that I loved and treasured and held sacred. Why take my heart? Why take my baby? Why take my joy? Why break my family? Where is he? This is the worst kind of punishment. The worst thing that could have happened has happened in the worst possible way. I only see him in my sleep where I’ve been trying to stay. Asleep. I’m broken. I’m so scared. I’m scared this is the end of me. I’m scared I’ll never feel happiness again. I’m scared I’ll never forgive myself. I’m scared for my children. I see the look of pain in their eyes and how worried they are, the worst kind of mirror. I see that no one will leave me alone as if I need to be on some sort of suicide watch. If only it were that easy, to die and melt away. I’m trying so hard to hold on. Maya keeps wiping my tears away with tissue after tissue. And Kesav held me when I had to bury my baby in a box in the dirt. The kids sleep in my room at night so I don’t have to be alone and I try to cry quietly so I don’t wake them. They keep bringing me food that I can’t eat. Sagar tried to make me coffee because he knows how happy coffee usually makes me. I tried to leave my room to watch Narnia with them. I keep having to remind myself that my children lost their brother too. I know I’m not the first mother to lose her child. Others have come before me and I honor you. I hope our children are all together somewhere. That’s one thought that has brought me comfort.

Thank God so many people loved Ravi because this grief is too much to bear alone. It’s ripping me to shreds and rotting my insides. Namraj held onto me all night. He held my face and he held my hand and wrapped his legs around me. His feet smelled bad from not washing his socks. I kept telling myself in the morning I would give him a bath but when the morning came I didn’t have the strength to stand. All I want is the strength to bathe my child.

I’m trying to hold on to something. To be grateful for something. The birds were chirping all afternoon as if they knew. I’m grateful for the sounds of my children trying to learn guitar and piano. I am grateful to the psychologist Buddhist healer who came from Kathmandu to keep me breathing. I’m grateful for Geyatri mantra, the prayer and song that’s the only thing that puts me to sleep. I’m grateful for Namraj’s little feet and my children’s eyes and for the nano-seconds that I can forget what happened and the pain subsides. I’m grateful that I’m not in this alone and I have access to help that many mothers don’t.

I still have my family. We will still be a family and I will be a mom again because that’s what I was brought here to do. I will fight with all the love and strength in my body to get Maggie back. The one who was happy and sang and danced and mothered, and could make people laugh and make the world better. It will take a long time and it will be ugly but I will fight for as long as it takes with every master healer and every ancient teaching and every piece of poetry with every religion with every ounce of hope and love to heal. I won’t miss out on my children’s childhood. I won’t let this be the end of me and my family. I won’t stop serving and I won’t let Ravi’s teachings or his memory die.

Thank you for loving my baby and my children, for crying with me and for sharing in our pain. Thank you for holding my children with me. Please go hold your children and your friends and your parents and the people you love for me. Give all you have to give and love all you can. This is all so temporary.

Heartbreaking! We will leave you with some of Ravi’s photographs.








Photos: Maggie’s Facebook


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